Manifesting Empathy
If you're working with, involved in, or adjacent too anything diversity/activism related ...
It's a lot to deal with, and relief so often seems so distant.
Because what we want is not just transformation, but a sustainable evolution.
Problem: Burn-Out & Paralysis
Crisis. Critique. More crisis.
Constantly on alert. Guilt. Shame.
That is what so many are constantly feeling.
At the expense of productivity and efficiency; which compounds negativity.
And it all becomes a rather vicious cycle.
Solution: Forgiveness
Forgiveness is not a simple incantation.
It is acknowledgement, consideration and lessons learned.
It is also the door through which we can pass to find a moment of peace, and patience, to observe where we are, how we got there, and where we might go.
So really, we need to learn how to forgive (ourselves).
Anatomy of an Apology
by Dream Hampton
- I'm sorry.
- Here's my understanding of how I hurt you.
- I will never do that again.
- Here is how I'm going to make it right.
- Please forgive me.
Now go find a mirror, and say that to your self.
Because we all know you owe yourself an apology.
And hold yourself to what you say!
(That's the trick.)
What steps will you take to never do that (to yourself) again?
How will you identify when you need to take those steps?
Why will the actions you take make things right?
And when you say this to your self ...
How will you better care for your self?
How will you be more patient with yourself?
More considerate of yourself?
Because in order to truly forgive ourselves, we need to find the root of our behaviors, and then decide what to protect, and what to renew.
And once we've started on that work, consciously ...
The work becomes to see others as traveler's on their journey as well; and to see them with the same compassion, patience and humility, we see ourselves.
And in that place, Work [has become] Love made visible.
To quote Khalil Gibran.
And from that place, all else is truly possible.
Canin Carlos
It should be noted that Dream's Anatomy does require additional nuance and consideration before one can expect the formula to work for any situation; which is why it is best to start with one's self.
The Structure
The first step is to figure out where we are ... but we can't really do that sufficiently without knowing how we got wherever we are ...
So we start with a structure, in order to conceptualize the process, and discern how success might be achieved.
Look at your life through a series of age brackets:
0 to 5 // 5 to 12 // 12 to 18 // 18 to 25,
25 to 35 // 35 to 50 // 50 to 70
and beyond.
See all of your selves through these phases.
Your physical, mental, emotional, financial & spiritual selves.
Then write down ... what are/were the APOCs for each epoch?
Achievements, Pitfalls, Opportunities & Challenges.
Through this lens, or these lenses, you can identify formative experiences that may continue to affect you.
You can view those experiences, extract the lessons they have to offer, and in this way grow, and release what is no longer needed.
This is how you start to deeply forgive yourself, because you deeply know yourself.
And each day, you work with the joy of knowing the work you are doing, how you are doing that work and why.
You are open to correction, because you embrace growth, and in this way find a path towards everlasting evolution ... no bs.
If that isn't winning, I don't know what is.
Winning
But that's not all that winning is ...
When crisis hits, you know what you're able to do, and how to start, without going into crisis yourself.
That's another side of what winning looks like, feels life, and lives like.
Because sadly, in our world, crisis is seemingly inevitable.
But it is only made possible by the other side of success:
Knowing what you're doing, and why.
Knowing the impact you seek to have, and how.
It is from this place, after knowing how to you got to where you are, and where to you seek to go ... after having done that work ...
That you can compassionately respond to others, in both joy and difficulty.
Because you know both your joy and your frustration, your sadness and your inspiration; you are familiar with the dynamism and diversity of them all.
And in this way, your sense of winning, wonder and gratitude can, and will be, a service, a window and a mirror, to others.
It will be tested too.
By learning how to draw boundaries with ourselves, we learn how to draw boundaries with others.
Being able to draw a boundary, safely and compassionately, this is also an outcome more easily achieved from a place of deep self-knowledge, acceptance and evolution.
My Story
Adopted from South America into the Western suburbs of Minneapolis, I have been labeled white while having brown skin. I have also reconnected with my birth family, culture and people.
This has yielded an ability to experience a large variety of perspectives regarding how diversity is accepted, and rejected; along with the costs and benefits of such choices.
My objective is to help others see, accept and nurture a deeper idea of diversity.
The Bootcamp
Six weeks of intentional, and challenging, bi-weekly conversations.
Week one we gain background, build familiarity and discern specific, measurable, goals.
Over the next four weeks we will talk about sexism, racism, ableism and power dynamics.
You will have space to explore these topics and receive direct, compassionate and actionable guidance and feedback.
Through these experiences you will exponentiate your social, emotional and mental evolution.
Canin Carlos
The Investment Club
MEIC - Manifesting Empathy Investment Club
We know that our individual goodness and positivity sends ripples of wonder and joy into the world around us; and this is why we do what we do, and seek to learn how to do it better.
As an investment club, we have a portfolio which most immediately includes DreamFreely products such as DigiSnaxx, idioke and a few other endeavors.
The club guides these projects, and advises on future investments as well.
Canin Carlos