Manifesting Empathy
If you're in the US, or Global North, and conscious ...
It's a lot to deal with, and relief so often seems so distant.
Because what we want is not just transformation, but a sustainable evolution.
Skip to the Structure for the step-by-step process.
Problem: Burn-Out & Paralysis
Crisis. Critique. More crisis.
Constantly on alert. Guilt. Shame.
That is what so many are constantly feeling.
At the expense of productivity and efficiency; which compounds negativity.
And it all becomes a rather vicious cycle.
Solution: Forgiveness
Forgiveness is not a simple incantation.
It is acknowledgement, consideration and lessons learned.
It is also the door through which we can pass to find a moment of peace, and patience, to observe where we are, how we got there, and where we might go.
So really, we need to learn how to forgive, ourselves and others.
Anatomy of an Apology
by Dream Hampton
- I'm sorry.
- Here's my understanding of how I hurt you.
- I will never do that again.
- Here is how I'm going to make it right.
- Please forgive me.
Now go find a mirror, and say that to your self.
Because we all know you owe yourself an apology.
And hold yourself to what you say!
(That's the trick.)
What steps will you take to never do that (to yourself) again?
How will you identify when you need to take those steps?
Why will the actions you take make things right?
And then ask your self ...
How will I better care for my self?
How will I be more patient with my self?
Because in order to truly forgive ourselves, we need to find the root of our behaviors, and then decide the following: what to protect, and what to renew.
Once we've started on that work, consciously the work becomes to see others as travelers on their journey, as we see ourselves.
To see them with the same compassion, patience and humility, as we see ourselves.
And in doing so, building stronger, more sustainable, relationships, communities and futures.
And from that place, work [becomes] love made visible.
And all else becomes truly possible.
We can truly dream freely.
The Structure
The first step is to figure out where we are.
Though we can't do that without knowing how we got to wherever we are.
So we start with a structure to picture the process, starting from zero.
Look at your life through a series of age brackets:
0 to 5 // 5 to 12 // 12 to 18 // 18 to 25,
25 to 35 // 35 to 45 // 45 to 60
and beyond.
See all of your selves through these phases.
Your physical, mental, emotional, financial & spiritual selves.
Then write down the answers to the question what are/were the APOCs for each of my selves in each of these brackets?
Achievements, Pitfalls, Opportunities & Challenges.
Through this lens, or these lenses, you can begin to identify formative experiences that continue to affect you.
You can view these experiences through a structured lens, extract the lessons they have to offer, and in this way, release what is no longer needed, while deeply growing from the experience.
This is how you start to deeply forgive yourself; because you deeply know yourself.
More each day, you work with the joy of knowing the work you are doing, how you are doing that work, and why.
You are open to correction, because you embrace growth, and in this way find a path towards everlasting evolution ... no bs.
If that isn't winning, I don't know what is.
The Twelve-Week Guide to Sustainable Evolution
The Rolling Enrollment Version is available via Gumroad:
Winning
But that's not all that winning is ...
Another side of what winning looks like, feels like, and lives like is when crisis hits.
You know who you are; and consequently you know what you're able to do, and how to start; without going into crisis yourself.
Because sadly, in our world, crisis is seemingly inevitable.
Knowing who you are, what you're doing, and why.
Knowing how to you got to where you are, and to where you seek to go
Knowing the impact you seek to have, and how.
After having done this work, you are better equipped to compassionately respond to others, in both joy and difficulty.
Because you know both your joy and your frustration, your sadness and your inspiration; you are familiar with the dynamism and diversity of yourself.
And so are able to see this dynamism in others.
Though a fair warning is that it will be tested too.
By learning how to draw boundaries with ourselves, we learn how to draw boundaries with others; though this is not often easy.
Being able to draw a boundary, more safely and compassionately, this is also an outcome more easily achieved from a place of deep self-knowledge, acceptance and evolution.
And so, we have The Twelve-Week Guide to Sustainable Evolution
The Rolling Enrollment Version is available via Gumroad:
For those interested in evolving.
About Canin Carlos
I was adopted into an Evangelical family, where I was put on stage to perform at the age of 5.
Eventually I performed with Psalty the Singing Songbook during the Billy Graham Kidz Gig ... Google, "kidz gig mpls", then click images:
Socially and emotionally isolated I was introduced to molecular biology near the age of 12, and the basics of physics a few years later; followed by semester of Eastern Philosophy.
Which may not seem like much, or enough ... but the purpose is to set each upon their own path of discovery; and that is truly what I have been on.
And I have experienced the depravity of the American Dream; having had my own child taken from me, and raised to dehumanize me.
But I did not succumb; science was on my side, because I was on hers.
For as they say, the first sip will make you an atheist, but by the last drop you'll be dancing with the gods begging for more.
DreamFreely baby.
It's in the game.
The Investment Club
MEIC - Manifesting Empathy Investment Club
We know that our individual goodness and positivity sends ripples of wonder and joy into the world around us; and this is why we do what we do, and seek to learn how to do it better.
As an investment club, we have a portfolio which most immediately includes DreamFreely products such as DigiSnaxx, idioke and a few other endeavors.
The club guides these projects, and advises on future investments as well.
Canin Carlos